Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Laguna, 2

My mother got married at age 20. Her father, Bonifacio, got married at age...


His wife, Manuela, was also 15. That's just the age of my youngest son Markus. Even though that was the turn of the 20th century, when young men were plotting and joining the Philippine Revolution against the Spanish conquistadores, I find it hard to imagine two 15-year-olds settling down like grown ups. It's easier to imagine older married people with the mindset of a 15-year-old because they're all over the place.

Just like its independence, which the Philippines won then quickly lost to the Americans, Bonifacio's marriage was lost to another man. Manuela left him taking along their two children.

My mother can't say for sure how long (or short) the marriage lasted. Or how long it took Bonifacio to find another love, which he found in Crispina. 

Crispina, about 24 years younger than Bonifacio, came from a broken marriage too. Like Bonifacio, she got married in her teens. I'm not sure if the man she married was also young, but it seems he was immature. My mother describes him as a mama's boy. The short marriage did not produce any children.

Bonifacio and Crispina lived together and in 1925, when Crispina was 20, they had their first of five children, my mother.

Fast forward...

When I was born, my grandfather, Bonifacio a.k.a. Lolo Pasyo, must have been in his 80s already. I remember him as short (less than 5'), fair, and skinny, but he was still active and strong enough to continue going up Mt. Makiling to oversee his land with its various tropical trees, fruit trees, coffee, etc. .that they sold to traders or used for consumption. In his younger years, he was a kainginero (slash-and-burn farmer) and a hunter who knew the forests of Mt. Makiling well. He always had fighting cocks that he brought to the cockpit arena on weekends.

Lolo may be short but he was domineering. I think he was like a taskmaster. In his old age, he seemed to give his children and wife a hard time because of stubbornness. But he was respected by the clan both from Manuela's and Crispina's lines. He may be stern, but he was very nice and gentle to me, like most grandfathers perhaps. I could get my way with him.

Lolo Pasyo carrying my nephew Glenn, his first great grandson in our side of the family

My grandmother, a.k.a. Lola Pina, was in her mid-50s when I was born. She was dark, tall (taller than Lolo), slender, with mellow eyes and long hair she often put up in a bun. She was a good cook, and loved gardening and card games. During the Japanese occupation, she earned some income from doing laundry for Japanese soldiers at the camp. Apparently she was a good laundrywoman and ironed clothes very well. My mother learned from her. I learned from my mother but I hardly put it to practice now unlike before in the Philippines. My grandmother might be appalled if she knew I don't iron my clothes if I could get away with it, and that I don't do it anymore for my husband nor sons who I'm "training" to be iron men. I'm passing the iron. If you want pressed clothes, do it yourselves. And they do.

Lola Pina in the late 50s or early 60s

Going back to my grandparents, together they were known as Ginatang Duhat, with reference to their skin colours. There was no such thing as Ginatang Duhat in real life. It's more like name-calling. The root word of ginatan is gata, meaning coconut milk or cream, referring to my grandfather. Duhat is black plum, referring to my grandmother. If one mentioned Ginatang Duhat in their town, everyone knew who it was or where they lived. Houses those days had no addresses. But people had labels.

My grandparents both loved to tell stories. I think chatting was everyone's favourite thing to in their family. Do you know my mother and her siblings? It was the same with their clan. People loved to chat anywhere and everywhere... They go unannounced to each other' houses at any time of the day or night and talk away. It seemed they were always animated and had a built-in mic, full blast! They laughed really loud and have a distinct Tagalog accent. Their language is very, uhm, colourful. It would make you blush even if you were from the more modern Manila.

Growing up, I heard some great stories of their exploits in the mountains and the lowland. My relatives liked to repeat stories so I remembered them. I have a few of my own memorable stories, too. I'm going to share some.

To be continued...

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